Wednesday, January 6, 2010

How to Save Your Marriage

To save a troubled marriage both partners need to make the effort to change their lives. If you have children it is imperative that you make things work out. Children of divorced parents are devastated and sometimes do not get over it for years if ever. After a divorce you will have no say about what is happening in your child's life when they are with their other parent. Your child may be left with a step parent or boyfriend/girlfriend. Your child may be ignored. Either way a divorce is the worst thing for a child unless there is physical abuse.

PUT YOURSELF IN YOUR SPOUSES SHOES - Try to see things from their point of view even if you completely disagree with their point of view. Listen when your spouse speaks, if you do not like what they are saying, then ignore it. Take the good stuff and leave the rest.

STOP BEING NARCISSISTIC - Open your world up to include other people. Stop thinking only of yourself. You are on a very important team. If other people depend on your team (such as children) it is important that you make this team work.

REMEMBER WHY - There was once a reason why you married your spouse. Try to remember the good times and the reasons why you married your spouse in the first place.

PLAN A GREAT DATE - Plan a date with your spouse that you know they will enjoy. You should enjoy it too even if you are just faking it. Do something that they absolutely love whether it is a romantic weekend away or a day shopping at the mall.

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for these tips. Always good to read new ideas for nuclear and blending families who continue to face the various challenges of life.